Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Going to the Mall

Me and some of my girl friends are going to the Mall. I received some very helpful information from my close friend Devory.

here are some advice on how to go out shopping to the mall:

First go to the mall and observe what women are wearing. You don't want to stand out. You Need to act the way women do.

Next, there are several great websites devoted to the support of crossdressers that offer tons of advice in how to look and act in order not to stand out, in other words "pass." Check them out.

Next decide what you want to wear. A dress is a simple one piece outfit. A skirt and blouse gives you more opportunities to 'mix and match.' Of course you can go the slacks/jeans route as well. Those are probably the easiest of all to do.

A wig is a must have. Dont be cheap here, use a very good Sheitlmacher, get recomendations before hand. Its also very good to learn as much as you can about Sheitl maintenance on your own, so you always keep it looking just perfect. There are plenty of places to pick up one that matches you skin tone and close to your natural color. What makes it obvious, is a person with blond wig with black eyebrows and eye lashes. You'd stand out in a crowd.

Make up can be a biggie. A hint, less is more. Don't over do it. Worst part is beard cover. Once you hide the beard, then apply foundation then the rest, but do not over do it.

Boobs can give you away if you are too flat chested (some men are developed and get away with a bra). You can buy silicon ones from $60 to over $200. Foam breast forms are a lot cheaper and then you can make your own with stockings and bird seed to fill a bra. What ever you decide, make sure your breasts are in proportion to your body structure. In other words, if you go out with size F cups, you better believe you'll get noticed in a heart beat, and in the wrong way. Stick with B to C cups.

Legs, if you were a dress or skirt, stocking or pantyhose are a must. They can really enhance the looks of your legs so you don't stand out. If you have a lot of leg hair, and do not want to shave it off (it grows back anyway) you may wear two pairs of stockings/pantyhose to hide the hair. But it is best to shave.







Shoes, if you have never worn them, do not wear high heels. Go with flats or shoes with heels of no more than an inch. Your legs will thank you and it is easier walking until you get used to them.

When you do get out there, relax and act natural and enjoy yourself. Act like that you've been doing this for years and do not bring attention to yourself. Remember one thing, there is no crime in going out crossdressed. """"Women have been crossdressing for years"""""'.

Go out and have fun.

14 comments:

Daniel R. said...
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Anonymous said...

welcome.

Daniel R. said...

So somebody's still here!

Can you give me any information? Show me how to join your group?

Anonymous said...

I doubt there is a 'group'. It's probably just the figment of someone's imagination.

Daniel R. said...

Heh. I suppose so. But you, for instance, have your profile blocked from public view, as do most of the commenters here. The rest don't even *have* blogs. Given that this blog is posted to so sparsely, where do most of your conversations take place? Or is this all there is? That would be disappointing... I'm eager to be able to talk to other people in similar situations to me.

Anonymous said...

I don't really know any details. But did you really expect a bunch of frum cd's to be telling their life stories on a blog with personal details? In all seriousness, I think this whole thing is phony. I have been monitoring this blog since it started - it is full of contradictions, plagarism, sexual innuendo, fantasy and lunacy.

Regardless, there are two reasons for having a blog like this - everything else falls into one of these categories:

1) To rationalize to one another that this type of behavior is 'OK' according to halacha. Unfortunately, all these rationalizations are falacious. It is NOT OK according to halacha. If someone does it, they are violating halacha - there is no question about it. I will not elaborate, but take it from someone who knows, far better than anyone on this ridiculous alleged blog does.

2) To indulge in various types of virtual voyeurism.

So, if you actually do indulge in this behavior and are indeed 'frum', you are living with a contradiction that you should try to resolve yourself: either stop being frum, or stop dressing, or figure out a very good explanation to submit to G-d after 120 years. But I don't think you should make the mistake of confiding in others or you will be very much exposed to a lot of bad things - that's the way the 'frum' world is.

You will not hear from me again. Good Luck.

Shoshana said...

Sheidel ...hi.. How have you been. I resurected the blog originally, to keep in touch with you and the others and then you disapeared.

Deborah Shaya said...

There is No codified Halacha that a married woman must cover her hair totally and constantly whenever she steps out of her house.

The Halachah has been MISinterpreted. When the Halachah refers to "Covering hair," it does not mean "Cover your hair with hair!" and "constantly for life." The Halachah is that:

A married woman is required to cover her hair when:

(1) she lights the candles to welcome in Shabbat and Yom Tov – lechavod Shabbat ve Yom Tov, and

(2) when she goes to the Synagogue, because that is the place of Kedusha.

The Halacha does not require anything more from married women. This is the true interpretation of the Halacha.

The misinterpretation of the Torah is completely Assur, and a twisting of the Torah.The Torah must remain straight.

Deborah Shaya said...

In ancient times, a woman would only cover her hair upon entering the Beit HaMikdash. Similarly for the Sotah-otherwise she would not be required to cover her hair ordinarily, day to day.

It is very important for people to know and realise that when a married woman covers her hair with 'Real Hair' the woman is covering herself with 100% Tumah. This is totally against the Torah.

Nothing could be more nonsensical than for a Jewish woman to cover her hair with someone else's hair -who was not Jewish as well! She can never fully be sure that this 'hair' has not come from meitim-despite any guarantee by the seller.This 'real hair' is doubly and in some circumstances, triply Tumah.

1.It will contain the leftover dead hair cells from another person - however much it has been treated, the tumah is still there.

2.This other person (likely to be a non-Jew who most likely was involved in some kind of Avodah Zarah) may have eaten bacon, ham, lobster etc, all of which are totally forbidden as unclean and non-kosher foods in Halacha.

3.If the woman happens to be the wife of a COHEN, then she is bringing her husband into close contact and proximity with meitim and Tumah Every day, and throughout their married life. This is clearly strictly against the Torah.

Deborah Shaya said...

There is nothing more degrading and demeaning to a woman than to make her cover her hair FOR LIFE upon marriage.It is an abhorrent practice.

Any man who makes such a ridiculous demand on his wife, or wife-to-be, should similarly also be required by his wife to wear: long white stockings, even in the summer; a fur streimel; grow a long beard; wear a black hat and coat constantly, and cover his face when he speaks to his wife.Wigs -"la perruque"- were merely a fashion item in the time of Louis XIV-they are not for the Jewish woman!

Rabbi Menachem Schneeersohn tz”l, gave the directive that a married woman must cover her head with a “sheitel.” This needs to be corrected. Rabbi Schneersohn a"h, was a Tzaddik, – but on this – he was, unfortunately not correct.

It is extremely unhealthy and unhygienic for a woman to cover her hair constantly.The hair needs oxygen to breathe.A woman's hair will lose its natural beauty and shine, she may have scalp problems, some of her hair may fall out, she may get headaches, and she may end up cutting it short like a man, when she always wore it long, in order not to have too much discomfort from her hair covering.

Do you think that HaKadosh Baruch Hu commanded this of women? I can assure you that He did not.The commmandments are not meant to cause so much repression and oppression in women.Was Chava created with a wig? Of course not! Did she start wearing a wig? Of course not!

Please Wake Up.

Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.

And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.

Deborah Shaya said...

1. To all the women who are wondering about the sources:

We have all been created, "Betselem Elokim" - "in the image of Elokim."
This means that we have been given something called "intelligence." The source is the very first Parsha, Bereishit - 1:27. It is time that people use the spark of intelligence and Kedusha with which Hashem has blessed them.

If your rabbi will tell you to go and jump into the depths of a glacier, presumably you would do that too – and give me a source for it?

“According to the Zohar”, I should also be covering my hair with a wig when I have a bath. “According to the Zohar and the Gemara” and all the sources that have misinterpreted the Halachah, and MIStranslated the Zohar, I should also have been born with a WIG on my head.

These sources and translations are incorrect, as they have deviated very far from the true and correct interpretation, of the Halachah.

Deborah Shaya said...

2.Remember that the Jewish women are very, very holy. They are much more holy than the men. Look at the exemplary behaviour of the women at Har Sinai.

The women never sinned at the Eigel, and so are greatly elevated. Many of the men, unfortunately, ran after a calf made out of a lump of gold – after they had just been given the Torah, and seen the greatest of all Revelations. The women refused to give their gold for the avodah zarah of the men.

The women were greatly elevated after such a wonderful display of Emunah, and they are regarded very highly in Shamayim.

That is why women are not even required to pray. They can pray at home on their own. Nor do women have to make up a minyan. That is how holy the Jewish women are. Men have to pray 3 times a day to remind them of their Creator.

The men are telling the women to put the hair of a non-Jewish woman who may have eaten things like snakes and sharks and alligators, and has worshipped in churches, Buddist temples or Hindu temples : on their own Heads. They had better wake up.

If the men don’t want to wake up to the truth, and the true interpretation of the Halacha, the women will wake them up – whether they like it or not.

3. Many righteous women influenced their husbands for the good at the Chet Haeigel and at the time of Korach.

It was these righteous women who succeeded in bringing their husbands back to their senses.

And because of these great women, the lives of their husbands were saved. Those men therefore turned away from the madness of avodah zarah, and the rebellion of Korach against Hashem's choice of Aharon, as Cohen HaGadol.

Deborah Shaya said...

4. Look at the Jewish women in history, and remember how holy they are.

(a) Yaakov, who was the greatest of the Avot, came to marry the 2 daughters of Lavan, Rachel and Leah. Lavan was not exactly a tzaddik. Yaakov went to Lavan, of all people, to marry his 2 daughters – not 1 daughter, but his 2 daughters. Nothing could be greater than that.

(b) Rut, who came from Moav, became the ancestor of David Hamelech.

(c ) Batya, the daughter of Paroh, was given eternal life because she rescued Moshe from the river. No one could have been more evil than Paroh.

(d) Devorah, was a Neviah, and also a Judge.

Women who came from such adverse backgrounds, were able to become builders of Am Yisrael. That is how holy the women are, and how much more elevated they are than the men.

This was never the case with men. It never happened the other way round.

Don't tell me it is holy for me to wear a WIG! Hair over my own hair? This is ridiculous!

Similarly, don’t tell me it is holy for me to plonk a permanent head covering on my head for the rest of my life. This is equally vile.

Please Wake Up.

Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.

And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.

5. Remember: Not a single “dayan” or “rabbi” has the slightest bit of interest in correcting the situation for the women. Therefore, the women will have to correct the situation................for ..................themselves.

Whether you wish to accept the correction – which is true – is up to you. Are you going to live by the truth? Are you going to use the spark of intelligence that Hashem gave to you and all women? Or are you going to follow rabbis and dayanim who tell you to wear a wig in a Heat Wave – and you thank them for it as well?

Unknown said...

Gosh you girls are ranting and raving talking against great tsadikim, i am also a girl and i also know that women and girls are far holier then men, we don't have to pray 3 times a day and we provide the support and give the fututre generations the life support it needs to grow and prosper! Us women are to holy to wanna feel comfortable bashing rabbis, we have to humble ourselves to the rabbis thats what the torah says, you have a problem with this, then i assume your smarter then god who gave us the torah 3,000 years ago and made us survive bitter exiles our survival is not normal according to nature! And the jewish survival was made possible through hashem who made us women provide that godly support to the men who are much less in control and sin much more easily, their persuasion is much easier thats why us women provided that jewish back bone throughout the generations! Now mostly men hold power because its the torah's command, and men need power to keep them afloat, and so please girls lets stop bashing holy rabbis, if they say right is left or left is right we must adhere! And so wearing a head covering is our privilage and not the other way around! It may not be healthy as that previous person claimed well so be it we remain loyal to our rabbis despite everything!